接纳自己，爱自己——生活的智慧

张 洁

（江苏省天一中学）

As I Began to Love Myself

As I began to love myself,I found that anguish and emotional sufferings are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today,I know,this is AUTHENTICITY.

As I began to love myself,I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desire on this person,even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,and even though this person was me.

Today I call it RESPECT.

As I began to love myself,I stopped craving for a different life,and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.

Today I call it MATURITY.

As I began to love myself,I understood that at any circumstance,I am in the right place at the right time,and everything happens at the exactly right moment,so I could be calm.

Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE .

As I began to love myself,I quit stealing my own time,and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.

Today,I only do what brings me joy and happiness,things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.

Today I call it HONESTY.

As I began to love myself,I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health — food,people,things,situations,and everything that drew me down and away from myself.

At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism（自我主义）.

Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.

As I began to love myself,I quit trying to always be right,and ever since I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discover that is MODESTY.

As I began to love myself,I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future.Now,I only live for the moment,where everything is happening.

Today I live each day,day by day,and I call it PERFECTION.

As I began to love myself,I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick.

But as I connected it to my heart,my mind became a valuable ally（盟友）.

Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.

We no longer need to fear arguments,confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.

Even stars collide,and out of their crashing new worlds are born.

Today I know that is LIFE!

作者及作品背景

查理•卓别林（Charlie Chaplin），1889 年4 月16 日生于英国伦敦，英国影视演员、导演、编剧，曾获英国电影和电视艺术学院奖终身成就奖、威尼斯电影节终身成就金狮奖、奥斯卡金像奖荣誉奖。这位给我们带来无数欢笑的伟大喜剧演员一生跌宕起伏，内心充满悲怆。他在54 岁时与乌娜•奥尼尔结婚之后，内心才慢慢得到了抚慰，生活也渐渐归于平静，于70 岁生日当天写下了这首散文诗。本诗共有十个小节，每一小节都使用相似结构，以As I began to love myself 开头，反思过往，进而阐述一个道理：要遵循本心，活得真实；要尊重客观，尊重自己；要成熟、自信、诚实、谦逊；要注重健康、活在当下、启迪心智、接纳不完美的自己。作者通过自己大半生的生活经验和大家分享生活的智慧，呼吁大家接纳自己、爱自己！

全诗译文

当我真正开始爱自己

当我真正开始爱自己，我才认识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，都只是提醒我：活着，不要违背自己的本心。

今天我明白了，这叫做『真实』。

当我真正开始爱自己，我才懂得，把自己的愿望强加于人，是多么无礼，就算我知道，时机并不成熟，那人也还没有做好准备，就算那个人就是我自己。

今天我明白了，这叫做『尊重』。

当我开始爱自己，我不再渴求不同的人生，我知道任何发生在我身边的事情，都是对我成长的邀请。今天我明白了，这叫做『成熟』。

当我开始真正爱自己，我才明白，我其实一直都在正确的时间，正确的地方，发生的一切都恰如其分。由此我得以平静。

今天我明白了，这叫做『自信』。

当我开始真正爱自己，我不再牺牲自己的自由时间，不再去勾画什么宏伟的明天。

今天我只做有趣和快乐的事，做自己热爱的、让心欢喜的事，用我的方式，以我的节奏。

今天我明白了，这叫做『单纯』。

当我开始真正爱自己，我开始远离一切不健康的东西。不论是饮食和人物，还是事情和环境，我远离一切让我远离本真的东西。

从前我把这叫做“追求健康的自私自利”。

但今天我明白了，这是『自爱』。

当我开始真正爱自己，我不再总想着要永远正确，不犯错误。

今天我明白了，这叫做『谦逊』。

当我开始真正爱自己，我不再继续沉溺于过去，也不再为明天而忧虑。

现在我只活在一切正在发生的当下。

今天，我活在此时此地，如此日复一日。这就叫『完美』

当我开始真正爱自己，我明白，我的思虑让我变得贫乏和病态。

但当我唤起了心灵的力量，理智就变成了一个重要的伙伴。

今天我明白了，这种组合我称之为『心的智慧』

我们无须再害怕自己和他人的分歧，矛盾和问题。因为即使星星有时也会碰在一起，形成新的世界。

今天我明白了，这就是『生命』!

——查理•卓别林写于70 岁生日当天

语言积累

authenticity n.真实性

offend v.冒犯

crave v.渴望

rhythm n.节奏

confrontation n.对抗

collide v.碰撞

阅读小练

1.What does the underlined word“anguish”probably mean?

A.Strong anger. B.Great pain.

C.Endless confusion. D.High spirits.

2.What did the author suggest by mentioning what he called“SELF-CONFIDENCE”?

A.Let things go at its own pace.

B.Bravely face others’comments.

C.Increase confidence in your job.

D.Keep calm in any circumstance.

3.What is the main purpose of this poem?

A.To inspire readers to love themselves.

B.To motivate others to follow his example.

D.To demonstrate the importance of maturity.

C.To introduce his past experiences to readers.

4.How is the article developed?

A.By making comparison.

B.By listing facts and examples.

C.By reflecting and concluding.

D.By arguing and convincing readers.

词汇运用

1.网站发布的照片的真实性有待进一步考证。

The __________ of the photos _______________by the website remains to be verified.

2.每个小目标的达成都是我的胜利，而这胜利又驱使我渴望更多。

Every small goal that I reach is my personal triumph that makes me ________________________.

3.如果太阳与月亮相撞，地球会怎样？

If the sun were to _________________________the moon,what would become of the earth?

答案和解析

阅读小练：

1.B。词义猜测题。根据第一小节中画线词所在句“As I began to love myself,I found that anguish and emotional sufferings are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.”可知，画线词anguish 和emotional sufferings 是并列成分，故可推知，二者表达的意义同向。B 项Great pain.意为“极大的痛苦”，可与情感苦恼并列。故选B。

2.A。细节理解题。根据第四小节“As I began to love myself,I understood that at any circumstance,I am in the right place at the right time,and everything happens at the exactly right moment,so I could be calm.”可知，当我开始爱自己，我才明白在任何情况下，我都处于正确的地点和正确的时间，每件事都发生在恰当的时刻，所以我应该冷静。我明白了，这就是自信！由此可推知，一切发生在我身上的事，都是按照它自己的节奏发生的，无论发生什么，都要顺其自然。故选A。

3.A。推理判断题。根据文章的标题As I Began to Love Myself 以及每一小节的第一句和最后一句可推知，作者的写作意图是呼吁大家都要爱自己。故选A。

4.C。写作方法题。从文章的结构可以看出，在每一小节中，作者先回顾自己以前的经历和表现，再进行反思和总结，以此结构组织全诗。故选C。

词汇运用:

1.authenticity;released

2.crave for more

3.collide with