How to Cheer Your Friends UP如何让你的朋友振作起来

苗淑华

It can be difficult to watch a friend deal with painful1 things. This could beanything from a death of a family member or loved one， an illness， a fight withsomeone， to a failing grade2 in school. You can try to do some things to cheer yourfriends up and tell them youre there for them.

看着朋友经历痛苦的事情可能会让人很难过。这可能是任何事情，从家庭成员或所爱之人的死亡、疾病、与他人的争吵，到学校里功课不及格。你可以尝试做一些事情来让你的朋友振作起来，并告诉他们你会支持他们。

1. Listen to your friends.

1. 倾听朋友的心声遥

Listening is one of the most important things you can do for someone who is nothappy. Active listening shows that you care about your friends and they are beingheard. When youre really listening， make sure that there are no other distractions3.Try to make eye contact4 with them while theyre talking. It shows that yourepaying attention.

倾听是你能为不开心的人做的最重要的事情之一。积极倾听表明你关心你的朋友，有人正在听他们倾诉。当你真正倾听时，要确保没有其他事情干扰。在他们说話的时候，试着与他们进行眼神交流，这也表明你在专心致志地聆听。

2. Be careful about giving advice.

2. 提供建议的时候要谨慎遥

Tell a similar5 story or experience that youve gone through if you think itmight help. Any lessons that you learned can be really helpful. After listening， givethem advice if they ask for it. Let them know you have an idea of what they coulddo. If you dont， be honest6 to yourself and them. Take them to a person who has abetter idea for the problem than you have.

如果你认为可能会有所帮助，就给朋友讲一个类似的故事或你的亲身经历。

你学到的任何经验都会很有帮助。听完他们的倾诉后，如果他们提出要求，那就给他们提建议，让他们知道你知道他们能做些什么。如果你不知道，要对自己和他们坦诚以待，把他们交给一个有更好的办法解决这个问题的人。

3. Spend time with your friends.

3. 与朋友共度时光遥

When people are sad， its not good for them to stay alone for too much time.You and your friends can do something to relax， such as do sports， go shopping，listen to music， watch a movie， or have some delicious food. Dont keep sayingthings like “cheer up”. Dont tell others how to feel. Let them feel and expresstheir emotions7. It will be much helpful to cheer them up.

当人们难过的时候，独处太久对他们来说不太好。你和朋友可以做一些放松的事情，比如做运动、购物、听音乐、看电影，或吃一些美食。不要老是说“振作起来”之类的话，不要告诉别人该如何去感受。让他们自己感受并表达自己的情绪。

这非常有助于让他们振作起来。

A friend in need is a friend indeed8. Try your best to help your friends andsome day you maybe helped as well.

患难见真情。尽力帮助你的朋友吧，也许有一天你也会得到他人的帮助。

Notes

1. painful 令人痛苦；难受的；困难的

2. failing grade 失败；不及格分

3. distraction  使人分心的事物；干扰；分心的事物

4. eye contact 目光接触；眼神交会

5. similar  相像的；类似的

6. honest  诚实的；正直的；坦诚的；直率的

7. emotion 情感；情绪

8. indeed 确实；的确；实际上；真正地