How to Empower1 Your Friends to Be Their Best Self 如何让你的朋友做最好的自己

Feeling empowered can be an amazing thing. Its what makes us feel positive and confident that we can achieve anything we set our mind to. Empowerment breeds self-respect and respect for others. The tricky part is how we become empowered. Sometimes its a life-changing event that gives us the push， or sometimes its having other people believe in us. Whichever the case may be， we encourage you to be that person who motivates， inspires， and believes in your friends. Be the confidant2 who is trustworthy， honest， and wants the best for them. Here are a few ways you can empower your friends to lift them up！

受到激励是一件令人惊奇的事情。正是因为如此，我们才觉得积极和自信，觉得可以实现我们定下的任何目标。激励能培养自尊和对他人的尊重。棘手的是我们如何才会受到激励。有时是一个改变生活的事件，有时是因为其他人对我们的信赖，才给了我们力量。不管是哪种情况，我们都鼓励你成为那种鼓舞、激励和信任朋友的人。做一个值得信赖、诚实的知交密友吧，为他们争取最好的东西。以下有一些方法可以激励你的朋友使他们振作起来！

Give your time and attention

Theres no better way to show someone you care about them than giving your time and attention. Whether its a professional issue with their boss or personal issues with their partner， having an open ear is crucial. Hear them out， validate their concerns， weigh out their options， and above all， express confidence in their decision making. By genuinely3 giving your time and attention as well as focusing on whats best for them， youll make your friends feel appreciated.

给予你的时间和关注

再没有比给予你的时间和关注更好的方式来显示你关心某人了。无论是与老板之间的职场问题，还是与伴侣的私人问题，敞开心扉都是至关重要的。听他们把话讲完，确认他们的担忧，权衡他们的选择，最重要的是，对他们的决定表示有信心。通过真诚地给予朋友你的时间和关注，以及专注于对他们好，你会让你的朋友心存感激。

Make sure your advice is unbiased4

It can be hard to be supportive during times when your friends desires dont match yours. For instance， when our best friend wants to move away to pursue one of their dreams， it can be hard to encourage them to do so because we want them to stay， but we cant be the ones who hold them back. When they ask you whether or not they should do something that may affect you， look at the situation from an outside perspective. Is this something that is healthy for your friend and will make them happy？ Are they scared because it would mean a big change？ Be unbiased， supportive， and give your advice on whats best for your friends， not whats best for you.

確保你的建议是公正的

当朋友的愿望与你的不符时，你很难给予他支持。例如，当我们最好的朋友想离开去追求他们的梦想时，我们很难去鼓励他们这样做，因为我们希望他们留下来，但我们不能成为阻碍他们的人。当他们问你，他们是否应该做一些可能影响到你的事情时，你应该从外人的角度来看待这种情况。这件事情对你的朋友是有益的吗，会让他们快乐吗？他们害怕是因为这件事意味着巨大的变化吗？你要不偏不倚，要支持他们，并给出对他们而言最好的、而不是对你自己最好的建议。

Tell them how you feel about them

In life， we often hold back saying what we think and feel about people. But to truly empower your friends， you need to tell them how they make you feel. Tell them when you miss them or that theyre amazing friends. Do it often， and especially on off days and not just when its expected， like on their birthday. Because the truth is， everyone wants to know how they make others feel and how they impact their lives. Its empowering to be honest and its empowering to know you matter to others.

告诉他们你对他们的感想

在生活中，我们经常隐瞒自己对人的想法和感受。但要真正激励你的朋友，你要告诉他们你的感受。要告诉他们你什么时候想念他们了或他们是了不起的朋友。要经常这样做，尤其是在休息日，而不仅仅只在他们期待的时候，比如生日的时候这样做。因为事实是，每个人都想知道别人对他们是什么感觉，以及他们如何影响到别人的生活。诚实是一种力量，了解你对他人的重要性也是一种力量。

Celebrate their wins and losses

Celebrate them anyways. Maybe they finally found their passion or got a unique opportunity at work—be enthusiastic and excited when they tell you about it. This will encourage them to keep working on their goals and be proud of themselves when they accomplish them.

庆祝他们的得失

无论如何都要庆祝。也许他们最终找到了自己热爱的东西，或者在工作中得到了一个特别的机会——当他们告诉你这件事时，你要热情而兴奋。这将鼓励他们继续努力实现自己的目标，并在实现目标时为自己感到自豪。

Your friend who recently got cheated on or who lost their dream job may not see it as a time for celebrating， but its your job to show them the positives. The person who cheated on them was never meant to be their soulmate5， and when the door closes on a job it just means a better opportunity is right around the corner. Itll take time for them to realize they didnt lose as much as they thought they did， but with your help， they will soon start thinking positive and become empowered by their losses as well.

你的朋友最近被骗了，或者失去了他们梦想中的工作，这也许不是一个值得庆祝的时刻，但你的任务是向他们展示事情积极的一面。对他们不诚信的人就不是他们的知音，失去一个工作机会，意味着眼前会有更好的机会。他们需要时间去意识到他们并没有像想象的那样损失太多，但是在你的帮助下，他们很快就会开始积极思考，并因自己的損失而受到激励。