今天就要去做的12件事

When youre near the summit of this climb through life， will you reach the top with wild enthusiasm or will you be hobbling with regret？ Youve climbed through storms， passed over green patches and had help from friends， and now its almost over. Your whole life has been leading you to this

moment and one thing is certain： this final ascent we all have to do alone.

What thoughts will flash through your mind？ You will be faced with tough questions such as： Did I do enough？Love enough？Was I happy？

You might leave these questions simmering on the back burner， thinking tomorrow will be a good day to contemplate the answers， but remember—tomorrow might not come！

So heres what you can do today. Lets call this an insurance policy for tomorrows happiness.

1. Put your health and wellness above everything else

There is an old saying： “If you dont have your health， you have nothing.” And this is very true. Your body is housing your soul. Exercise， eat clean and get the proper rest. Take care of your body so that you have the opportunity to lead a long and full life.

2. Take the time to do the things you love

This may sound cliché， but you should work less and play more. You will never regret taking a vacation， engaging in a new hobby or spending a day with those who make you happy. But you might regret never taking that art class， reading that book or crossing big items off the bucket list. Be a participant in life.

3. Stop taking life so seriously

Why are you taking life so seriously anyway？ Really？ Find humor in something everyday， and laugh， laugh a lot！

4. Always say what you need to say

If you want to thank someone， tell them. If someone hurts you， tell them. If you have trouble expressing your feelings， then write a letter. Make sure those around you know each and every day how you feel.

5. Open up your mind to possibilities

If you look in your garage and see a coiled， dark shadow that resembles a snake， your reaction might be to jump with fear， but later when you look closer and realize its just a green hose， you might feel silly for believing the tricks of your mind. Stop being controlled by your deluded projections.

Change your perspective and open yourself up to a new world of exciting and fulfilling possibilities. Look at your life with fresh eyes and youll find improved relationships， more excitement， and less resentments， anger and bitterness.

6. Follow your own path—live a life true to you

Stop comparing yourself to others and stop striving for perfection. Life is not a masquerade ball—take off the mask， be yourself！ If people dont like it， then maybe its time to find a new party. Doing or being any other way will leave you feeling lonely， depressed and hopeless. Stop living a life based on the expectations of others.

7. Stop living in the past

Right now you need to throw away regrets of the past.

Its gone， there is no point dwelling on the past events， doing so will only rob the present moment of joy.

The past doesnt exist except as a memory， its a

mental story and it cant be changed. Why not tell the story of your past in a way that enhances your present moment and future？

8. Accept the things you cannot change

When you fight against reality， you get bloody in a battle of what ifs and denial. Whether your reality is that you should have said something you needed to say， or are dealing with an illness， the reality is you cant change any these things. Dwelling or worrying is only robbing your present moment of all joy.

What you can do is re-evaluate your life now and take the necessary steps to make the appropriate changes. Follow your instincts， they will tell you when you have veered off the path of where you should be， whether it be your relationship or career. Tune into your inner compass it will guide you in the right direction.

Take “what if” “should have” and “why me” out of your story. Then， move on.

9. Practice mindful living

Mindful living will in fact slow down time； it will

enhance the present moment and fill otherwise mundane days with awe and joy.

Ten years from now you might think， Where did my life go？ When we live mindfully we immerse ourselves in

moments. These are the moments that make up our lives. If you dont practice mindfulness you run the risk of having these precious moments of your life lost to a string of foggy over-thinking. Rest in the spaces between the major events， these spaces are your life.

10. Stop chasing money， fame， and possessions

We crave wealth， prestige， fame and popularity， we crave material things and beautiful people. We mistakenly think that happiness is going to arrive when we meet these goals. Instead of enjoying our life， we are in a constant pursuit of something other than where we are right now.

At the end of your life， your expensive BMW will not be whats flashing through your mind. You will more likely smile at the memory of your loyal dog. Stop chasing material possessions， there is no real happiness there， only an endless pursuit.

11. Always practice gratitude

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough， and more. It turns denial into acceptance， chaos to order， confusion clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast， a house into a home， a stranger into a friend.”— Melody Beattie

Gratitude improves health， happiness， spirituality，

relationships， self-worth and simply gives life intense meaning.

Even if your life isnt perfect—and heres a secret， it never will be perfect—you still have a lot to be grateful for. So every day remember to take the time to smile， laugh and truly say thanks for all the small and big joys in your life.

12. Love

This is an excerpt by the famous Martha Beck that has made an enormous impact on my life. It sums up regret beautifully：

“So the ultimate lesson of regret， the one that will help guide you into a rich and satisfying future， is this： Every time life brings you to a crossroads， from the tiniest to the most immense， go toward love， not away from fear. Think of every choice in terms of ‘What would thrill and delight me？ rather than ‘What will keep my fear—or the events， people， and things I fear at bay？”

Pay attention to all of the sources of love in your life and youll develop a growing sense of abundance of how much beauty surrounds you each day.

There is no guarantee that you wont make any bad decisions， but when you start living your life with these tools in mind， your days will naturally become meaningful. Your wise eyes will be full of adventure and tales： adventures that might not be perfect， but at the very least wont be filled with regrets.

当你快要攀登到生活的巅峰时，你是乐观地攀登到顶点还是懊悔着徘徊不前？你已经历过狂风暴雨，走过一马平川，也得到过朋友的帮助，但现在一切已成过往。人生走到这一刻，唯一能确定的便是：最后这一仗，你只能孤身奋战了。

你想到了什么？是不是想到这些棘手的问题：我做得够好吗？爱得够多吗？我快乐吗？

或许你选择暂且把这些疑问搁置一边，等明天再好好思考。但是别忘了——明日复明日，万事成蹉跎！

下面这些事情是你今天就能做的，姑且把它看作是明天幸福的保证吧。

1.健康高于一切

俗话说：“健康不再，万事无奈。”千真万确。身体是革命的本钱。要运动、健康饮食、适当休息。只有照顾好自己的身体，才有机会创造完满人生。

2.花时间做喜欢的事

虽是陈词滥调，但你确实应该少操心工作，多学会享受。去度假、发展新爱好或和使你快乐的人消磨一天，你绝对不会后悔；但若是没有去上那堂艺术课、没有阅读某本书或没能完成某个心愿，你却会感到后悔。所以，做个生活的积极参与者吧。

3.别过得一本正经

何必让自己的生活如此严肃呢，这样好吗？要学会寻找生活中的乐趣，多开怀大笑吧！

4.说该说的话

如果你想感谢某个人，那就告诉他吧；如果某人伤害了你，那就说出你的不满吧。要是你不擅长口头表达情感，那就采取写信的方式。确保身边的人每天都能知道你的感受。

5.向机遇敞开心怀

如果你看到车库里有个貌似蛇的黑乎乎的蜷曲着的东西，第一反应肯定是吓了一跳，可再细看时，你发现其实只是一截绿色水管，原来是自己看错了啊，你哑然失笑。所以，不要再被自己无端的假想给绊住。

换个视角，敞开心胸接纳各种令人兴奋而有意义的机遇。用全新的眼光审视自己的生活，你会发现你拥有更融洽的人际关系、更多开心的事情，会少一些抵触、愤怒与痛苦的情绪。

6.听从内心——过自己的生活

停止与他人攀比，停止追求完美。生活不是一场化装舞会——摘掉面具，做回你自己吧！要是别人不喜欢，那就换个环境。有悖自我只会使你感到孤独、沮丧甚至绝望。不要再为了满足他人的期望而生活了。

7.不要活在过去

从现在开始，你应该抛开对过去的悔恨。既然已经过去，后悔不仅于事无补，反倒会掠走当下的快乐。

过去除了回忆一无所有，而回忆只是一则无法改变的故事罢了。既然如此，何不以积极的方式看待过去的故事，从而为当下和将来提供正能量呢？

8.接受无法改变的事情

在与现实斗争的过程中，你不断假设又不断碰壁，撞得头破血流。不论你说了不该说的话，或正身患疾病，现实都无法改变。一味沉溺其中或忧愁焦虑只会使你丧失当下所有的快乐。

你能做的就是从现在起，重新审视自己的生活，采取必要措施作出恰当改变。听从直觉的指引，它将帮助你回归正轨。不论是感情还是事业，请让内心指引你找到正确的方向。

把“假如”“本应该”及“为什么是我”从你的字典里删除。然后，继续前行。

9.试着用心生活

用心生活能放慢时间，彰显当下时光并使平凡的日子充满惊喜与快乐。

十年后你可能会问：我这辈子是怎么过来的？如果用心地生活，你会尽情过好每分每秒，而正是这些分分秒秒构成了我们全部的生活。要是麻木地生活，你会错失生活中美好的瞬间，只留下一抹模糊的掠影。享受“里程碑”间的间歇时光吧——这些就是你的生活。

10.停止追逐金钱、名利和财富

我们渴望财富、声望与名利，我们渴望物质和俊男美女。我们错误地以为，只要得到这些，幸福就会降临。我们忘了要享受生活、忽视了当下的时光，转而乐此不疲地追求其他东西。

弥留之际，你脑中闪现的或许不是你昂贵的宝马汽车，而是让你微笑的忠诚老狗。停止追逐物质财富吧。物质并不能带来真正的快乐，只会招来永无止境的贪婪。

11.常常感恩

“感恩开启生活的圆满。它使我们拥有更多，变拒绝为接受，化混乱为有序，使困惑变澄澈。它能将简餐变成盛宴、房屋变成家园、陌生人变成好朋友。”—— 梅洛迪·贝蒂

感恩改善健康、快乐、精神、人际关系和提升自我价值，并赋予生活深刻的内涵。

哪怕你的生活并不完美（其实生活从来不曾完美），你仍有许多可以感恩的地方。所以，每天要记得微笑、大笑，感激生活中或大或小的乐趣。

12.爱心

下面一段话摘自玛莎·贝克的文字，把遗憾总结得非常美妙，我感到受益匪浅：

“最后一课是关于遗憾。能指引你走向丰富而圆满的未来的是：每次生活中遇到十字路口时，不论大小，都选择爱心那条路，而不是恐惧的方向。每次都告诉自己‘前方有什么有趣的事情在等我，而不是暗示自己‘前方有什么可怕的事情或人物。”

关注生活中的点滴爱心，慢慢地你会发现，每天的生活都那么丰富而美妙！

谁也不能保证你绝不会做出糟糕的决定，但如果你在生活中谨记以上建议，一切就会变得充满意义。你的眼里写满冒险和故事：冒险或许并不完美，但绝对会让你无悔！

（凯 伦 供稿）