How adversity makes you stronger逆境如何让你更强大

彭向梅

尼采說过，“那些杀不死你的，终将使你更强大。”这句话说的正是超越逆境的智慧。那么，当遇到逆境时，怎样做才能顺利走出逆境，获得成长呢？

1 When faced with a crisis， we find it difficult to imagine the experience will eventually lead to some type of growth. The fact is that we can even get the ability to become strong， happy， or successful again after a difficult situation. Research shows that past adversities can help you become more powerful in five ways.

2 They increase empathy（共鸣）. Empathy is the ability to identify with the people facing challenges and to see those challenges from their perspective. Empathy can offer us ways to better understand difficulties in others  shoes and value what we have achieved.

3 They can bring growth after sufferings. Post traumatic growth（创伤后成长） is the experience of positive change after going through a significantly stressful event. Researchers have discovered two common themes that people tend to report after experiencing a stressful event： spiritual growth and enhanced personal strength.

4 They build self efficacy（自我效能）. Self efficacy is the confidence in your ability to overcome challenges and succeed. I once took part in a program with soldiers， where I should dance in front of hundreds of audience. When I danced， I had a panic attack and had to hang onto my colleague s arm to make it through. What was odd was my brain s reaction to the exercise. While it was a truly unpleasant experience， I survived， and that made my brain think about what other tough challenges I could conquer.

5 They help you find the good. The soldiers who I mentioned above would often talk about the benefits they gained from their practice—friendships. Finding the upside of an adversity changes the way people cope—they report more hope for the future and have a healthier physical response to stress.

6 They help you treat stress as a challenge. How you think about stress matters enormously in terms of how you process it. Some people view stress as a threat， while others are able to view it as a challenge. With a challenge response， you get additional energy and feel focused instead of being fearful.

7 If your world feels out of control right now and your stress levels are high， just stay relaxed. Your past struggles， even small ones amid an adversity can help you step out of the trouble you re faced with.

Complete the following mind map with only one word for each blank

Past adversities help you become more powerful in five ways.

They increase empathy， which is the ability to 1.           with the people facing challenges and to see those challenges from their perspective.

They can bring growth after sufferings， which means going through a stressful event will lead to 2.           change.

They build self efficacy which is the 3.           in your ability to overcome challenges and succeed.

They help you find the upside of an adversity.

They help you treat stress as a 4.           instead of a threat.

Past struggles can help you step out of the trouble youre faced with.