学会控制情绪

王平平

The tides advance; the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises; the sun sets. The moon is full; the moon is black. The birds arrive; the birds depart. Flowers bloom; flowers fade. Seeds are sown; harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and I am a part of nature and so， like the tides， my moods will rise; my moods will fall.

It is one of nature’s tricks， little understood， that each day I awaken with moods that have changed from yester- day. Yesterday’s joy will become today’s sadness; yet to- day’s sadness will grow into tomorrow’s joy. Inside me is a wheel， constantly turning from sadness to joy， from exultation to depression， from happiness to melancholy. Like the flowers， today’s full bloom of joy will fade and wither into despondency， yet I will remember that as today’s dead flower carries the seed of tomorrow’s bloom so， too， does to- day’s sadness carry the seed of tomorrow’sjoy.

And how will I master these emotions so that each day will be productive？ For unless my mood is right the day will be a failure. Trees and plants depend on the weather to flourish but I make my own weather， yea I transport it with me. If I bring rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism to my customers then they will react with rain and gloom and darkness and pessimism and they will purchase naught. If I bring joy and enthusiasm and brightness and laughter tomy customers they will react with joy and enthusiasm andbrightness and laughter.

潮起潮落，冬去春來，夏末秋至，日出日落，月圆月缺，雁来雁往，花开花谢，草长瓜熟，自然界万物都在循环往复的变化中，我也不例外，情绪会时好时坏。

这是大自然的玩笑，很少有人窥破天机。每天我醒来时，不再有旧日的心情。昨日的快乐变成今天的哀愁，今天的悲伤又转为明日的喜悦。我心中像一只轮子不停地转着，由乐而悲，由悲而喜，由喜而忧。这就好比花儿的变化，今天枯败的花儿蕴藏着明天新生的种子，今天的悲伤也预示着明天的快乐。

我怎样才能控制情绪，以使每天卓有成效呢？除非我心平气和，否则迎来的又将是失败的一天。花草树木，随着气候的变化而生长，但是我为自己创造天气。我要学会用自己的心灵弥补不足。如果我为顾客带来风雨、忧郁、黑暗和悲观，那么他们也会报之于风雨、忧郁、黑暗和悲观，而他们什么也不会买。相反的，如果我们为顾客献上欢乐、喜悦、光明和笑声。

And how will I master my emotions so that every dayis a happy day？ I will learn this secret of the ages： Weak ishe who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong ishe who forces his actions to control his thoughts. Each day，when I awaken， I will follow this plan of battle before I amcaptured by the forces of sadness， self-pity and failure.

If I feel depressed I will sing.

If I feel sad I will laugh.

If I feel ill I will double my labor.

If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.

If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.

If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.

If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.

If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.

If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.

Today I will be master of my emotions.

Henceforth， I will know that only those with inferiorability can always be at their best， and I am not inferior.There will be days When I must IN THE WORLD constantly struggle against forces which would tear me down. Thosesuch as despair and sadness are simple to recognize butthere are others which approach with a smile and the handof friendship and they can also destroy me. Against them，too， I must never relinquish control.

If I become overconfident I will recall my failures.

If I overindulge I will think of past hungers.

If I feel complacency I will remember my competition.

If I enjoy moments of greatness I will remember moments of shame.

If I feel all-powerful I will try to stop the wind.

If I attain great wealth I will remember one unfedmouth.

If l become overly proud I will remember a moment ofweakness.

If I feel my skill is unmatched I will look at the stars.

我怎樣才能控制情绪，让每天充满幸福和欢乐？我要学会这个千古秘诀：弱者任思绪控制行为，强者让行为控制思绪。每天醒来当我被悲伤、自怜、失败的情绪包围时，我就这样与之对抗。

沮丧时，我引吭高歌。

悲伤时，我开怀大笑。

病痛时，我加倍工作。

恐惧时，我勇往直前。

自卑时，我换上新装。

不安时，我提高声音。

穷困潦倒时，我想象未来的富有。

力不从心时，我回想过去的成功。

自轻自贱时，我想想自己的目标。

总之，今天我要学会控制自己的情绪。

从今往后，我明白了，只有低能者才会江郎才尽，我并非低能者，我必须不断对抗那些企图摧垮我的力量。失望与悲伤一眼就会被识破，而其它许多敌人是不易觉察的。它们往往面带微笑，却随时可能将我们摧垮。对它们，我们永远不能放松警惕。

自高自大时，我要追寻失败的记忆。

纵情得意时，我要记得挨饿的日子。

洋洋得意时，我要想想竞争的对手。

沾沾自喜时，不要忘了那忍辱的时刻。

自以为是时，看看自己能否让风驻足。

腰缠万贯时，想想那些食不果腹的人。

骄傲自满时，要想到自己怯懦的时候。

不可一世时，让我抬头，仰望群星。

And with this new knowledge I will also understand and recognize the moods  of him  on whom  I  call. I will make allowances for his anger and irritation of today for he knows not the secret of controlling his mind. I can with- stand his arrows and insults for now I know that tomorrow he will change and be a joy to approach.

No longer will I judge a man on one meeting; no longer will I fail to call again tomorrow on he who meets me with hate today. This day he will not buy gold chariots for a penny， yet tomorrow he would  exchange his home  for  a tree. My knowledge of this secret will be my key to great wealth.

Today l will be master of my emotions.

Henceforth I will recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind， and in me. From this moment I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day. I will master my moods through positive action and when I master my moods I will control my destiny.

I will become master of myself.

I will become great.

有了这项新本领，我也更能体察别人情绪的变化。我宽容怒气冲冲的人，因为他尚未懂得控制自己的情绪，就可以忍受他的指责与辱骂，因为我知道明天他会改变，重新变得随和。

我不再只凭一面之交来判断一个人，也不再因一时的怨恨与人绝交，今天不肯花一分钱买金蓬马车的人，明天也许会用全部家当换树苗。知道了这个秘密，我可以获得极大的财富。

今天我学会控制情绪。

我从此领悟人类情绪变化的奥秘。对于自己千变万化的个性，我不再听之任之，我知道，只有积极主动地控制情绪，才能掌握自己的命运。

我成为自己的主人。

我由此而变得伟大。