我给陌生人捐献肝脏

I saw this post on Facebook， and somebody needed urgently liver transplant， and I dont even know that somebody. But somehow I felt a prompt in my heart， that I needed to respond to this call for donation. I think its not easy for the family， especially when somebodys declared that he has only seven days left. So there was this prompting， this heavy burden on me that I needed to respond， even though it was a stranger.

When I went for the briefing thing by the surgeons， they told me about the risk that I had to take out 70% of my liver， my gall bladder， so post-ops I would somehow put on weight because gall bladder is removed. And then theres 1% mortality rate. It was 1% of hundred will die on operating table. There are also side effects to the medication. Some people become bald and then some people will have diabetes and have that pleasure. I had to bring my mom down，cause I needed the next of kin to have consent to this. Mom was OK. She knows that since I was young I wanted to help someone. I told her， when I was very young， if I died， donate all my organs， and， yeah， so she knows that， yeah， I have to do this. So I got the full support from my mom.

There wasnt any fear， because I…OK 1% is not very high， and to me， I needed to do what was more important to save a life， not be so concerned about the side effects and the mortality rate.

The operation was on Friday itself. Mine was about nine hours. They had to open me up， take my liver， and then， while Im being stitched back， had to operate on Mr. Toh， so was side by side. The whole operation lasted about 20 hours.

Since secondary school days my foreign teacher， Miss Yup， shes very active in volunteer work， so she will bring us to childrens home， to old folks home. Thats where I learn about helping others. I know I cannot help a lot， I cannot help the entire world， if I can just help one， make a difference in one， to me thats enough. A lot of people think I had a good job in police force， why did I leave to become a social worker， become volunteer. I think the priorities are different in my life， so its not about getting cash and cars and everything. I think its beyond that as a purpose in all our lives.

我在臉谱网上看到这个帖子，说有人急需肝移植，而我甚至都不认识这个人。但出于某种原因，我的心被触动了一下，我觉得我必须回应这个捐肝的请求。我觉得这事儿对这个家庭来说肯定很艰难，特别是家里有人被宣布只能活七天了。所以尽管这完全是一个陌生人，我还是觉得心里动了一下，觉得很沉重，必须要回应。

我去听外科医生介绍情况的时候，他们告诉我把70%的肝脏切除和切除胆囊的风险，所以术后因为没有了胆囊，我可能会胖起来;手术的死亡率是1%，我有1%的机会会死在手术台上;另外，我服用的药物也会有副作用，有些人会因此变秃顶，有些会有患上糖尿病的“美好体验”。我还要把我妈妈带过来，因为我需要有直系亲属的同意才能手术。我妈妈对此没有意见，因为她知道我从小就想帮助别人。我在年轻的时候曾经跟她说过，如果我死了，就把我所有的器官都捐献出去。所以她明白我一定会走这一步。她全力支持我。

我并不觉得害怕，因为我……1%的风险并不是很高，对我来说，更重要的是拯救生命，而不是为手术的副作用和死亡率过分担心。

手术是在星期五进行的，我的手术长达大概九个小时。他们要给我开膛，取我的肝脏进行手术，然后在帮我缝合的时候，他们同时要给陶先生做手术，当时我俩的手术台是并排的，整个手术大概持续了二十个小时。

在我上中学的时候，当时教外语的叶老师对做志愿者工作很积极，她会带我们到儿童福利院、老人院。我正是从她那里学会帮助别人的。我明白我不可能帮助很多人，不可能帮助全世界的人，即使我只能给一个人以帮助，让一个人的生活发生变化，对我来说已经足够了。许多人觉得我原来当警察，有一份好工作，为什么要离开去当一名社工，当志愿者呢。我觉得生活中我最看重的事情与别人不一样，就是与赚钱、买车和其他东西没有关系。我觉得我们人生的意义超越了这些。