摆脱“评判”的唯一方式

辽宁 王 辉

生活中，我们对问题的评判会影响我们的判断。文章主要讲了“评判”的坏处以及如何摆脱“评判”。

We may not have the full details and it's likely that we are likely to judge something based on limited information. We tend to distance ourselves through our judgment and become disappointed with what we find. Judgment keeps us safe because we move our feelings of fear, shame and guilt onto others to make ourselves feel better. This comes at a cost of parting ourselves instead of building stronger connections.

The way out of judgment is through the power of gratitude, which helps us see things differently.Gratitude opens the door to our hearts and helps us consider things from different aspects. A heart filled with gratitude is unlike a heart filled with judgment, fear and anger. Consequently, judgment and gratitude are opposing forces. One is the field of the self and the other is expressed through true goodness and sympathy.

The key to recognizing our judgment lies in being mindful of our thoughts. I often tell coaching customers when they notice themselves judging, to stop and ask a simple question: “What am I not seeing in this situation?” This helps us notice where we are blinded by our bias (偏见) and unable to see the truth. It is my experience that judgment happens mainly in our connection with people.

We are unaware of other people's motives and plans because we bring our own ill-natured thinking to the process. This was evident with the Tour de France winner Lance Armstrong, who convinced himself and others he did not cheat. He went to great lengths to deny his use of illegal performanceimproving drugs. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey, he said that his lies were so convincing that they eventually became truth.

But upholding a lie is harder than speaking the truth. In contrast, the power of gratitude allows us to shift (转移) our attention to the truth, even if it means our feelings will be hurt. Gratitude turns the switch from fear and judgment to sympathy and understanding. It is the bridge where friendships and tolerance are born.

1. What does the aut hor think of judgment?

A. It makes us physically safe.

B. It contributes to satisfying results.

C. It damages our relationships with others.

D. It allows us to decide with full understanding.

2. What's the author's purpose of asking his customers the question?

A. To warn them of others' ill thoughts.

B. To help them to recognize their judgment.

C. To remind them to connect with others.

D. To explain to them the bad effects of judgment.

3. The example of Lance Armstrong is used to show_______ .

A. the progress in medicine

B. the factor in judgment

C. the achievement of the cyclist

D. the reason for telling white lies

4. What can be an alternative title for the text?

A. Benefits of being grateful

B. Search for the whole truth

C. Ways to form a friendship

D. Get away from judgment

Sentence for writing

We may not have the full details and it's likely that we are likely to judge something based on limited information.

【信息提取】It be likely that...意为“有可能……”；be likely to do...意为“有可能……”。

【句式仿写】明天天气可能很好，我的一些朋友有可能会来我家。