7 body language tips to boost your confidence提升自信的7种肢体语言技巧

河南固始县高级中学 汤 润

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恰当而又得体的肢体语言是提升自信的有效方式，是实现个人成功的重要因素之一。

难词探意

1. rear /rɪər/ n. 后部；臀部

2. intimacy /΄ɪntɪməsi/ n. 亲密

People earn more when they boost their self-confidence. Confidence is a skill that you can improve through body language.

Practice smiling

Smiling can trick your brain into feeling happy, even when you feel sad as you're smiling.

When you wake up in the morning, stand in front of your mirror and smile at yourself.When you're in your car or alone at your desk,practice smiling. Be aware of the impact smiling has on other people, and remind yourself to smile more often with others.

Pay attention to posture

When you sit, your back is straight, your rear is against the back of the chair, your feet are flat on the floor, and you bend your knees at a right angle. When standing, you should be able to draw an imaginary straight line from your earlobe through your shoulder, hip, knee and the middle of your ankle. When entering a room of people or a meeting, correct your posture before you walk in the room.

Use power poses

Proper poses can impact your performance,as well as your success at work.

Select two or three poses that you might practice by yourself and in professional situations when you want to appear and feel powerful. Practice doing these poses every day for a few weeks until they feel natural.

Use engaged body language

Engaged body language gives you more confidence and sends powerful messages to others to win them over. It involves using open gestures, smiling, nodding, and mirroring the expressions and movements of the other person.

Think about upcoming situations in which you want to reach an agreement or win someone over. Practice the encounter beforehand using confident body language. In casual conversation,practice mirroring expressions and movements so you feel confident about it before your big meeting.

Remember your arms and legs

Crossing your arms suggests you feel defensive, self-protective, and closed off. Crossing your legs away from another person can suggest you dislike him or feel discomfort. Crossing your ankles can often signal you're holding something back and not expressing it.

Begin to pay attention to what you do with your arms and legs in certain situations. Notice how you are feeling when your arms and/or legs are crossed. What is the other person saying or doing, and why might you feel defensive or closed off?

Begin to change the position of your arms and legs. Crossing your legs at the knee for comfort is fine, as long as it's not combined with crossed arms.

Dress for confidence

Clothes do make a difference in how we perceive ourselves, and how others perceive us.Dressing confidently is more than wearing the trendiest fashion. It's about feeling good and having confident posture in all situations.

It's also about sending the right message to the people you are with. You can boost your confidence when you dress appropriately for the occasion, know the audience, reflect your personal style, and understand the impact of color.

Practice appropriate eye contact

Confident eyes impart a sense of intimacy in your interactions and make the other person feel more positive and connected to you. However, too much eye contact can send the signal that you're aggressive or maybe even a little strange.

If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact, start to get comfortable by practicing with family and friends. Look at them in the eye for about 50-60 percent of the conversation ideally.

Reading Check

Apart from the body language mentioned in the text, can you think of any other body language that helps to boost your confidence?

Language Study

Sentence for writing

Clothes do make a difference in how we perceive ourselves, and how others perceive us.

【信息提取】本句中的do用来加强句子的语气， 常放在实义动词前或者是祈使句的最前面，有人称和时态的变化，意为“确实；务必”。

【句式仿写】他在英语学习方面确实取得了快速的进步。

主题应用·语库构建

Ⅰ. 热词积累

（一）肢体语言行为及其分类

grin 露齿笑；咧嘴笑

smile 微笑

frown 皱眉

laugh 大笑

hug 拥抱

yawn 打哈欠

bow 鞠躬

bend 屈身

gaze 凝视；注视

glare 怒视

stare 盯着看

thumbs up 竖起大拇指

grab one's hand 抓住某人的手

hold one's hand 握住某人的手

look at sb in the eye 直视某人

tilt one's head from side to side 把头从一边向另一边倾斜

nod to affirm 点头确认

touch the tip of the index finger 触摸食指的指尖

shake hands 握手

kiss cheeks 亲吻脸颊

sit with crossed legs 腿交叉而坐

twitch 抽动；抽搐

fidget 坐立不安

place the thumb on one's cheeks 把大拇指放在脸上

hold your eyes for longer than a few seconds 注

视你的眼睛超过几秒钟

open palms 张开手

slouch 无精打采地站（坐或行走）

shrug 耸肩

cover one's mouth 遮住某人的嘴

spread two or more fingers across one's mouth展开两个或多个手指遮住某人的嘴

institute a fake cough 假装咳嗽

rub the nose 擦擦鼻子

divert one's hand from his mouth on purpose 故意把某人的手从嘴上移开

scratch one's nose, eyes and ears 挠鼻子、眼睛、耳朵

cross one's arms/legs/ankles 交叉手臂/双腿/双膝

clench hands tightly 握紧双手

rub hair through one's hand 用手挠头发

shut eyes frequently 频繁地闭上眼睛

facial expressions 面部表情

corporal expressions 肢体表达

eye contact 目光接触

constant/strong visual contact 持续的/强烈的目光接触

cultural body language 肢体文化语言

aggressive body language 侵略性肢体语言

gesture 手势

head movements 头部运动

（二）识别欺骗性肢体语言

keep a close watch on the eyes 密切注视眼睛

watch the hands of the person who speaks 注意说话人的手

keep one's palms hidden in the pockets or

turned over 把手掌藏在口袋里或翻过来

consider how the person touches his face 思考这个人是如何触摸他的脸的

be on guard around people who touch their faces

in any form 警惕那些以任何形式触摸他们的脸的人

take notice of excessive scratching 注意过度的抓挠

（三）增强信心的肢体语言

practice smiling 练习微笑

pay attention to posture 注意姿势

use power poses 使用有力的姿势

use engaged body language 使用投入的肢体语言

remember your arms and legs 记住你的胳膊和腿（的位置）

dress for confidence 穿出自信

dress appropriately 衣着得体

practice appropriate eye contact 练习适当的眼神接触

make eye contact 进行眼神交流

（四）肢体语言新时尚

change greeting policy 转变问候策略

practice social distancing 保持社交距离

kick feet 踢脚

foot tap 轻拍脚部

foot kissing 脚吻

elbow touch 肘部接触

butt bump 撞臀部

non-contact greetings 非接触问候

stop the traditional kiss greeting 停止传统的亲吻问候

Ⅱ. 美句背诵

1. Body language is an outward reflection of a person's emotional condition. 肢体语言是一个人情绪状况的外在反映。

2. Body language varies from country to country. When you communicate with foreigners,one secure way is to understand, respect and follow the culture. Understanding cultural body language in other countries is key to efficient communication, especially when we have not yet mastered a foreign language. 肢体语言因国家而异。 当你与外国人交流时，一种稳妥的方式是理解、尊重和遵循他们的文化。 理解其他国家的肢体文化语言是有效沟通的关键，尤其是当我们还没有掌握这门外语时。

3. Elements such as gestures, facial or corporal expressions that do not, as a rule, attract much of our attention are of great importance in our daily communication. 手势、 面部表情或肢体表达等通常不能吸引我们很多注意力的因素在我们的日常交流中是非常重要的。

4. It is teachers' body language that earns them credibility and determines whether learning processes will be fostered or not. 正是教师的肢体语言使他们赢得了信任，并决定了学习过程是否会得到促进。

5. Although the students will not be aware of this fact, let alone be able to truly express it,they can nevertheless sense it and thus withdraw from learning activities in what seems to be a demotivated manner. 虽然学生们不会意识到这个事实，更不用说能够真正地表达它了，但他们仍然可以感觉到它，从而以一种似乎没有动力的方式退出学习活动。

6. Whether in business or romance, some people use body language to convey false messages and to take in others. A person's body language will very often betray that a person is lying. 无论在生意还是爱情中， 有些人使用肢体语言来传达虚假的信息， 以欺骗另一些人。一个人的肢体语言经常会暴露一个人在撒谎。

7. Smiling can trick your brain into feeling happy, even when you feel sad as you're smiling. Be aware of the impact smiling has on other people, and remind yourself to smile more often with others. 即使当你微笑时感到悲伤，微笑也可以使你的大脑感到快乐。要意识到微笑对别人的影响，并提醒自己多与别人一起微笑。

8. Proper poses can impact your performance, as well as your success at work. 适当的姿势会影响你的表现，以及你在工作中的成功。

9. Confident eyes impart a sense of intimacy in your interactions and make the other person feel more positive and connected to you. 自信的眼神在你的互动中传递出一种亲密感，会让对方感觉更积极，与你的联系更紧密。

10. He who does not understand a look will not understand a long explanation either. 一个不懂眼神的人也不会明白一个很长的解释。

Ⅲ. 读后创写

假定你是李华，你的爱尔兰朋友Peter准备暑期去你们学校访问。 请给他发一封邮件，要点如下：

1. 表示欢迎；

2. 介绍中国的肢体语言。注意：

1. 词数150左右；

2. 可以适当增加细节，以使行文连贯；

3. 结束语已为你写好。

Dear Peter,

Yours,

Li Hua

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