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文/Omar Merza 译/yiyan宝宝 绘/小雨点

我们一起前行

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文/Omar Merza 译/yiyan宝宝 绘/小雨点

Years ago, after being put in bed to sleep, a child stared up①stare up 抬头凝视 eg. On some nights， half the world will be able to stare up at a full Moon.在某些夜晚，世界上一半的人都可以抬头看到满月。at the glowing②glowing 英 ［'ɡləʊɪŋ］ adj.灼热的；热情洋溢的；鲜艳的 v. 发光；容光焕发（glow的ing形式）；发热stars on the ceiling of the room. There would be no sleep for the child. His brain was too busy imagining all the possibilities the world had to offer. She could not keep track of③keep track of 记录；与……保持联系eg. We use a spreadsheet to keep track of the requirements. 我们使用电子数据表来保持对需求的跟踪。her thoughts; she would think of the absolute perfect scenario④scenario 英 ［sɪ'nɑːrɪəʊ］ 美 ［sə'nærɪo］ n. 方案；情节；剧本only for her mind to wander off⑤wander off 漫步；漫游；离群走散 eg. Don't wander off the point again！ 别又离题！to a better place moments later.

"I want to be a black belt pilot⑥black belt （擅长某种技艺的）专家，技术能手 black belt 的其他释意：⒈【柔道、空手道】⑴（有段位者所系的）黑腰带，黑绶 ⑵黑腰带级（通常为6段），最高等级⑶黑腰带级选手，达到最高等级的武师，黑带武师 ［参较 brown belt， white belt］⒉（土地极肥沃的）黑土带 ⒊［常作 B- B-］ （城市里的）黑人聚居区cook."

"I'll be the first mermaid writer president ever."

Wishes were made to stars on ceilings, stars made real by the sheer

power of imagination. Finally, the child fell asleep and journeyed into a world where scenarios that were even more impossible became reality.

Then you woke up. I woke up.

We wake up to reality.

There is a sudden and frightening realization. You are not that child anymore. You are what people consider to be a grown up. You have a job, but there is only one problem. Y ou hate it. That's fine because you can still go out with your friends and have a great time, but it's in crowds where you feel most alone now. Well at least you have your writing, dancing, d r a wing, training, sculpt ing... oh wait, you stopped doing that too. T here will always be your family, but you sadly no longer have anything to talk to them about.

If you have ever felt this way bef ore, or are feeling this way now, then rest assured that it is only proof that you are human. Everyone gets these feelings from time to time⑦from time to time 不时，有时eg.She sat silently，flinging the odd word into the conversation from time to time.她静静地坐着听谈话，不时插进一两句。. We all feel lost, alone, empty, restless, impatient, or incompetent at one point or another.

Everyone is struggling. Everyone feels pain. There is absolutely no shame in that. People just have different ways of showing it or dealing with it. Look around you when you walk down the street, look around you when you are with your friends, family, or in the office. Look at the people's faces. They all have their own worries, fears, pain, hopes, and dreams.

We all suffer.

It may sound a bit selfish, but it is a relief to know that you are not the only one going through this. They might not admit it, but they are with you.

I am with you.

I feel this now just as I felt it when I was a child wishing upon a star.

Never forget that every singleatom in your body was formed in the core of a star billions of years ago.

There is a universe, inside of you and out, waiting to be discovered.

It won't be easy, this journey. Nothing of substantial worth has ever come easily.

Take my hand.

Feel it tremble.

I am just as terrified as you.

You are not alone.

多年前，有一个孩子躺在床上，他没有睡觉，而是盯着房间天花板上发亮的星星看。他的脑海里想象着所有世界上可能发生的事。她自己都无法跟上自己的思路，这一刻，她想象着一个相当完美的情景。片刻之后，她就走神了，想到了另一个更加好的情景。

“我想成为一名高级厨师向导。”

“我会成为第一个身为美人鱼的作家。”

向着天花板上的星星许愿，因为孩子的想象力，星星也好像变得真实了。最后，孩子睡着了，进入到一个更不可能成为现实的世界中去了。

然后你醒了，我也醒了。

我们在现实中醒来。

这种领悟既突然又可怕。你不是是那个孩子了。在其他人眼里，你是大人了。你有一份工作，但你却厌恶这份工作。这没什么，因为你仍然可以和你的朋友一起玩。但是即使在人群中，现在你也会感觉很孤独。至少你还可以写作、跳舞、画画、训练、雕刻……等一下！对了，你已经不再做这些了。你的家人还在，但可悲的是，你和他们也没什么好谈的了。

如果你以前有过这样的感觉，或者现在就有这种感觉，那么请放心，这只证明你是一个常人而已。每个人都会时不时有这些感觉。我们都会或多或少感到迷失、孤独、空虚、不安、焦躁或是无能。

每个人都在挣扎。每个人都会感到疼痛。不必对此感到羞愧。只是人们会有不同的表现或是处理方式而已。当你走在街上时，环顾四周的人是什么样的。当你和家人、朋友在一起或是在办公室里的时候，看看周围的人是什么样的。看看他们的脸。他们也都有自己的焦虑、恐惧、痛苦、希望和梦想。

我们都遭受着苦难。

这听起来似乎有些自私。但当你知道不只有自己在经受那些时，你还是会感觉到一丝欣慰。

我会一直陪伴着你。

这种感觉，就像是小时候，我对星星许愿时的感觉似的。

永远不要忘记，你身体里的每一个原子，与经过十亿年形成一个星核的物质，是一样的。

你的身体里和身体外都有一个宇宙，等你去探索、去发现。

过程会很艰难。有实际价值的东西都来之不易。

牵着我的手吧。

感受它的悸动。

我和你一样的恐惧。

你不是一个人。

Whether you're the life of the party, a bookworm①bookworm 英 ［'bʊkwɜːm］ 美［'bʊk'wɝm］ n.书呆子；蠹鱼，蛀书虫, or a night owl, your personality plays a surprisingly large role in your ability to slim down.

If you're self-centered...

Being a little stuck on②stuck on 迷恋于；粘上yourself may not be such a bad thing when trying to lose weight. Self-centered people tend to consider their own interests, which could lead them to better conserve their energy and have m ore willpower to m ake healthy choices. To practice being more "selfish" in asking for what you want and sticking to it without feeling guilty. Meet friends after your workout instead of canceling your exercise plans, or ask them to join you.

If you're impulsive③impulsive 英［ɪm'pʌlsɪv］ 美［ɪm'pʌlsɪv］ adj.冲动的；受感情驱使的；任性的In that impulsive drama the physical passions lead the dance. 在那冲动的戏剧中，身体的种种激情引导着舞蹈。...

In a famous 1972 study, scientists offered young children a choice between a single m arshm allows④marshmallow 英 ［mɑːʃ'mæləʊ］ 美［'mɑrʃmɛlo］ n.棉花糖im m ediately or, if they could wait 15 m inutes, two m arshm allows. Those who waited went onto experience more success and higher SAT scores later on in life. The ability to delay gratification⑤gratification 英［ɡrætɪfɪ'keɪʃn］ 美［,ɡrætɪfɪ'keʃən］ n.满意；喜悦；使人满意之事also relates to weight loss.

If you're reliable...

Always on time? Follow rules by the book? It means you're conscientious⑥conscientious 英［,kɒnʃɪ'enʃəs］ 美［'kɑnʃɪ'ɛnʃəs］ adj.认真的；尽责的；本着良心的；小心谨慎的, a trait that makes it easier to stick with⑦stick with 坚持；继续做；保持联系 Stick with your schedule for the week. 在这一周里坚持你的计划。an eating or fitness plan. However, whether you're conscientious or not, there's a paradox⑧paradox 英［'pærədɒks］ 美 ［'pærədɑks］ n.悖论，反论；似非而是的论点；自相矛盾的人或事in that creating a plan forces you to think about food all the time, which can work against you. The solution: create routines not specifically about dropping pounds that will still lead to weight loss, he suggests. For example, instead of driving your kids the mile to school, start walking with them.

If you're prone⑨prone 英 ［prəʊn］ 美 ［pron］ adj. 俯卧的；有……倾向的，易于……的to mood swings...

The way you ride life's rollercoaster⑩rollercoaster n. 过山车determines your emotional stability. Learn to recognize your own ups and downs⑪ups and downs n. 沉浮；盛衰；高低eg. Like many， my daughter has traversed her own ups and downs as she moved intoher adult years.像大多数人一样，我的女儿在步入成人期时也经历了她自己的成功与失败。and try to take action in healthier ways, like calling a friend or sweating your stress away with a workout.

If you're quiet...

People who prefer curling up with a book over a night out at the bar m ay have a leg up on weight loss. It is difficult for m ore im pulsive people. Extroverts should plan ahead for situations that test willpower. If you know you're headed to a party, for instance, eat a healthy snack beforehand⑫beforehand 英 ［bɪ'fɔːhænd］ 美 ［bɪ'fɔrhænd］ adv. 事先；预先 adj. 提前的；预先准备好的eg. No one expected this beforehand. 没人事先预料到这事。so you'll be less likely to scarf down junk.

If you're a night owl...

Staying up until the wee⑬wee 英 ［wiː］ 美 ［wi］ adj. 极小的；很早的 n. 一点点hours may wreak havoc⑭havoc 英 ［'hævək］ 美 ［'hævək］ n. 大破坏；浩劫；蹂躏 vt. 严重破坏 vi. 损毁with your waistline. Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania found that people who were kept up until 4 a.m. ate 550 additional calories during their late night hours. What's more, a higher percentage of the late-night calories came from high-fat foods than they did during daytime hours.

If you're an early bird...

In an Australian study, participants who woke up early were less likely to be overweight than night owls—even though both groups slept the sam e num ber of hours. Although this study involved young children, the results are likely applicable to adults as well. The specialist recom m ends adults strive for seven to nine hours of sleep per night.

If you're easygoing...

People who go with the flow tend to be leaner than those who are more neurotic, according to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. In some cases, however, this may backfire⑮backfire 英 ［bæk'faɪə］ 美 ［'bæk'faɪr］ vi. 放出逆火；预先放火；产生出乎意料及事与愿违的结果 n. 逆火，回火. Highly agreeable people may stress over failure because they're afraid of letting other people down. This stress can actually get in the way of successful weight loss, because stress makes it harder to resist temptation.

不管你是派对狂、书呆子或夜猫子，这些生活习惯都在你瘦身的能力上扮演着惊人的角色。

如果你是以自我为中心的人

当试图减肥时，把自己困住可能不是一件坏事。以自我为中心的人总是考虑自己的利益，这可能会导致他们更好地节约能源和更有意志力做出健康的选择。在减肥这件事上应该“自私”一点，寻求你想要的，并坚持而不感到内疚。