从北欧雪国到山城雾都

文/本刊记者 李静

从北欧雪国到山城雾都

文/本刊记者 李静

Anders幸福的一家

在搬到重庆居住前，来自瑞典的Anders已经来来往往中国不下8次，不仅是因为工作的原因，还因为在这期间，他遇到了自己生命中的另一半，他的重庆太太王梅。两人和他们的漂亮女儿一起，在瑞典待了10年。但对Anders来说，他对在中国生活一直很向往，他很喜欢中国，来到中国就像是生命的另一次冒险旅行，充满未知、新奇与向往。于是，在2009年11月，Anders终于如愿以偿，和太太一起，从遥远的北欧雪国搬到了雾都山城。

太太来自重庆万盛，Anders自然跟随太太来到万盛开始了自己的重庆生活。因为不同的地理位置和环境，万盛和重庆主城区自然有着很大的区别，一个宁静谐和，就像自己的家乡；一个热闹繁华。虽然不同，但Anders非常喜欢这样的反差，让他有不一样的感觉。

Anders在瑞典是一个心理分析师，从04年开始，他便开始帮助人们分析、疏导心理问题，为他们解决心理上的困惑，释放压力。他面对的病人都有不同的问题，焦虑、压力等，和所有心理分析师一样，Anders有着优秀的职业素养，他沉着冷静，耐心地倾听客人的生活经历和想法，为他们提供可取的建议。“这是一份不容易的工作，因为每个人都有不同的想法，而每个人在面对陌生人时，即使面对的是心理医生，他们也会隐藏自己内心的一些真实想法，而我要做的，就是让他们信任我，走进他们的内心世界里去。这是一个信任的问题，只有和病人保持良好的关系才能完成。”Anders语调缓慢地说道，“我工作的目标就是帮助病人们找回自己的那份潜力和信心”。

作为一个与人的内心打交道的人来说，长期倾听 病人的心理困扰，有时也会让自己陷入迷茫，受 病人的想法干扰，每到这个时候，除了有心理督导帮助他们，Anders还会收起行装，去走耶稣走过的路，在瑞典，人们称之为朝圣。他会坐飞机到法国，然后步行到西班牙、意大利、耶路撒冷等国家，一年一次，每次都去不同的地方。“在行走的过程中，我们让自己的心灵得到平静，清空。这样才好回去更好地工作。”Anders非常喜欢自己的职业。而每到这个时候，太太都会非常支持他。

现在，Anders正在一家重庆本地的心理诊所工作。虽然来重庆工作的时间不长，但Anders已经有了很多向他寻求帮助的病人，大多是12岁——21岁的青少年。在瑞典的时候，Anders已经有了帮助青少年的经验，他认为，在中国的孩子们其实压力很大，学习负担重，又正好是叛逆的年龄，所以难免会有困惑。因为自己也有孩子，他更希望给孩子们更多的帮助和关怀，“让他们重新认识和了解自己和他们的生活，这样才能真正帮到他们”。

因为语言交流障碍，在重庆的 病人只能通过发信息或电子邮件来与他交流，也有个别会用简单的英语和身体语言与他沟通。但Anders非常开心，这是他第一次帮助到自己国家以外的人。“以这样发信息的方式为他们做心理咨询很好，就像是一个朋友，更能让他们相信我。”提到在重庆的工作，Anders非常满意。太太王梅也很开心Anders能够这么快地适应重庆的生活，做自己喜欢的工作。Anders一直有个愿望，就是希望在重庆开一家自己的心理咨询室，为在重庆生活的外籍人士和本地人提供心理服务指导。

平日不工作的时候，Anders便会和家人一起，逛逛重庆的大街小巷，去不同的城区看看，每到一处，他都觉得很惊喜，因为这座城市和他的家乡完全不同，到处都让他充满新鲜感。短短一年多的时间，Anders已经爱上了重庆，北欧的寒冷与火炉一样的重庆是两个极端，也让这个来自冰雪之国的瑞典人体验了自己第二故乡的独特魅力。

看着蹦蹦跳跳、活泼可爱的女儿，Anders觉得很幸福，作为一个重庆女婿，他希望可以和妻子、孩子一起，在这里生活上10年，每天亲眼目睹这座城市的发展变化，做一个优秀的心理分析师，让重庆的朋友每天都开开心心。

Be fo re m oving to Chongq ing, Ande rs from Sweden has a lready trave lled to China m o re than eigh t tim es, it is no t on ly because o f his job, bu t a lso a t the sam e tim e, he m e t the o the r ha lf o f his life, his Chongqing w ife W ang Mei. They had lived w ith their beau tifu l daugh te r in Sweden fo r ten yea rs, bu t living in Ch ina has a lways been a d ream to Ande rs. Like he said, he likes China; Com ing to China is like ano the r adven tu re trave l o f his life, unknown, nove l and desirab le. On Novem be r 2009, Ande rs fina lly m oved from the snow coun try o f No rth Eu rope to this m oun tain city.

Since h is w ife is from Wan Sheng d istrict, Ande rs cam e he re to sta rt h is life in Chongq ing. Because o f the geog raphic loca tions and circum stances, W an Sheng is d iffe ren t than Chongqing u rban a rea; one is peace fu l, just like his hom e while the o the r is live ly. Bu t he likes the con trast, it gives him d iffe ren t fee lings.

Ande rs is a psycho the rap ist in Sweden. He b e g a n to h e lp p e o p le a n d g ive th em p sy c ho log ica l p e rsua s ion to so lve the ir psycho logica l p rob lem s and re lease p ressu re since 2004.His pa tien ts have d iffe ren t p rob lem s, a n x ie ty, s tre ss, p re ssu re. Like a ll the psycho the rap ists w ith exce llen t p ro fessiona l qua lity. Ande rs was ca lm and listens to their life expe riences pa tien tly and ideas then p rovide them good advice. “This is a difficu lt job because eve ryone has d iffe ren t though ts, and eve ryone w ill hide their true fee lings when facing the strange rs even a psycho the rap ist. W ha t I do is to le t them pu t trust in m e so I can wa lk in to their inside wo rld. This is a ll abou t trust, it can on ly be com p le ted un less m ain tain good re la tionship w ith pa tien ts. My job is to he lp the pa tien ts ge t their po ten tia l and con fidence back.” As a m an who a lways listens to pa tien ts' psycho logica l p rob lem s, som e tim es it's easy to be in te rfe red by them and ge t you rse lf lost. Eve ry tim e in this m om en t, besides his supe rviso r he lp them, Ande rs a lways packed up and take a trip to fo llow the Jesus' pa th, peop le ca ll it p ilg rim age. He w ill go to d iffe ren t coun tries eve ry yea r, Spain, Ita ly, and Je rusa lem. “W hen we a re wa lking, ou r hea rt ge ts ca lm and c lea r, so we can ge t back to wo rk be tte r.” Ande rs rea lly likes his job and h is w ife is rea lly suppo rtive a t th is m om en t.

Cu rren tly An d e rs w o rks fo r a lo ca l psycho log ica l c linic in Chongq ing. Although he cam e to Chongqing no t long, he has m any pa tien ts ask h im fo r he lp, m ost o f which we re12-21 yea rs o ld you ths. Ande rs a lready had expe rience he lp ing teens in Sweden. He th inks Chinese ch ild ren a re ve ry stressfu l because o f their heavy study load. And a lso a t rebe llious age, so they a re a ll puzz led and con fused. Since he has a child, he'd like to give ch ild ren m o re he lp and ca re. “He lp them ge t to know and unde rstand them se lves and the ir lives, tha t's wha t a rea lly he lp m eans.”

Righ t now pa tien ts can on ly comm unica te w ith him by send ing m essages o r e-m ail because o f the language ba rrie r, bu t som e o f them can still comm unica te w ith him in sim p le Eng lish and body language. Ande rs is ve ry happy, this is his first tim e to he lp pa tien t from d iffe ren t coun try. By doing psycho logica l counse ling in this way they trust m e as a friend, which can he lp them a lo t.”W hen m en tioned abou t his job in Chongqing, Ande rs is rea lly sa tisfied. His w ife W ang Mei is ve ry happy tha t he can adap t life he re so fast. Ande rs has a d ream tha t he can open up his own psycho log ica l counse ling c linic in Chongqing fo r a ll the expa ts and loca l peop le to p rovide psycho logica l se rvices instruction.

Ande rs likes to stay w ith his fam ily in his spa re tim e, they w a lked eve ry stree t and d iffe ren t towns o f Chongqing, and he fe lt ve ry su rp rised to see th is spec ia l city tha t is com p le te ly d iffe ren t from his hom e tow n. W ithin a yea r, Ande rs has fa llen in love w ith Chongqing, the extrem es o f co ld as No rth Eu rope and ho t as fu rnace, the Sw ed ish guy expe rienced the un ique cha rm o f his second hom e town.

Looking a t his love ly daugh te r, Ande rs fe lt ve ry happy. As a Chongqing son-in-law, he hoped to live in Chongqing w ith his w ife and kid fo r ano the r ten yea rs to w itness the city's d e ve lo pm e n t, h e w a n ts to b e a g o o d psycho the rap ist and w ish a ll the Chongqing friends happy eve ry day.

From Snow Count ry to Mountain City

W ritten by Aggie & Gary Hynson