Teenagers aged between 12 and 18 are generally in the middle of their life, and during this age, both physical and physical, are at a rapid growth stage. The adolescent girls are baffled by the growing consciousness of their own childhood, the enhancement of their independent consciousness and the physical changes of their bodies. Adolescence is a process of mystery. Adolescence is a period of great change and a critical period of growth. By this time, physiological mutations and ambivalent psychology have brought a lot of trouble to teenagers.
First of all, there are hidden campus violence and academic pressure inside the school. Because the adolescent children have distinct personality, feisty and competitive, the character is not easy to quarrel and crowd out. For example, girls form small groups,and strong boys like to bully weak boys, which is common on campus. In addition, except school violence, students have to face great academic pressure. The endless homework, the exam paper, the teachers and parentsgreat expectations, push the teenagers out of breath.
Once again, in the family, the teenagers are worried about the communication with the parents. Because in childhood, children were not strong autonomy, so many things were done by parents. As a teenager, the child gradually demands liberal democracy, and likes his parents not to interfere in his own affairs. But parents have a firm grip on their children out of fear of their childrens safety, and a little trifling matter can cause huge squabbles. There are many cases of teenagers running away from home because their parents dont understand them.
Apart from the troubles on campus and off campus, teenagers are troubled by their own physical problems. Boys feel like their voice being rude, and girls hate their growing bodies. Youth hormones to ferment between boys and girls, they will fall in love with somebody and become entangled, especially his love after being rejected.Their feelings are hit by huge mental collapse, if too serious ,it can also affect the daily life. How to deal with the problem of puppy love, which is also the way that teenagers should learn.
So what should we do about these annoyances? I think it should be dealed in two ways. First, the teacher and parents should try to stand in the childs point of view to understand them, try to accept their ideas, patience to guide them, and encourage more, less criticism and prohibited, having more communication with the child.To understand their ideological trends in a timely manner. Second, teenagers should understand their parents more, understand their good intentions,and communicate with them peacefully.
To put down the authority of the parents, with the tone of equal communication in children, even if at the start parents dont agree with children, also have to listen patiently, after fully understand their opinions in the form of exchange of views then put forward your ideas.Not blindly sermon, almost regardless of the childrens feelings. An appropriate form of intervention should be taken in order to avoid any further estrangement between the two. Parents want to face up to the growth of children self-consciousness and the improvement of cognition to the world, not to impose their own values to the child.If the child want to do something, dont use their experience to set, believing they can design their own future.
Education for teenagers who have just entered adolescence is a process that requires constant dialogue, and a constant readjustment of the relationship with children to communicate openly. What teenagers really need is a facilitator: someone who is mature and understanding, who can help immediately when they need help. And for all parents in the world, watching their children growing up slowly and gradually learning to solve their own problems is the greatest comfort.
Dont hide or run away from your emotional problems. Theres nothing to be ashamed of. Love is sacred and pure. We should accept it and try to control it. In addition, we can also ask parents and teachers and talk to our friends about our troubles, so that they can help out ideas. When we develop psychological impulse,we can also try when our own “psychological doctor”, and think about the moral norms, legal requirements, and enhance our own control, through self-suggestion, empathy, methods of humor to dissolve, for effective control. To enrich ourselves.,read more books, more in science and technology, and join entertainment, social activity.
To sum up, I believe that with the efforts of both parents and children, the troubles of teenagers can be properly solved and teenagers will have a brighter tomorrow.
【作者簡介】王楷方(2002- ),男,天津市武清区杨村四中高一10班,学生。