Social Network Sites

王晶洲

I subscribe to Sherry's view. All the us are spots on the Internet. And the social network sites to us what the sun is to planets. Although we are assembled， the distance between us is still out of reach. Furthermore， social network sites not only make us be alone as before， but also ruin relationships between us. There are two contributors contributing to the phenomenon.

In such an imaginary world， the virtual way to communicate deprives people's ability to trust. Behind the screen， individual is prone to disguise their real emotions tn the platform enables individuals to show what they want others to see.

Using exaggerating literal expressions and sending polite emoticons and having more time to make a better reply establish a unreal world without eyes contacts， face-to-face intimacy and trust. Everyone is getting used to be in the circle of disguising himself and accepting cheating from others， which brings perils of losing trust.

Additionally the objective cause， individual himself also is one of the principal triggers.

Those sites are not just simple tools used to communicate， but stages to show off. The majority of the population enjoy displaying the best images of people and their success. One's flaunting， in reality， leads to a gap between him and his friends. Superiority， inferiority and indifference following everyday browse make such relationships in place of lasting emotions more fragile.

Above all， relationships are getting worse with the sweep of social network sites in the long run. They are designed to shorten the distance between individuals' addresses， not to increase the gap between individuals' heart. What a irony！

Now those tools have become accelerators to the deterioration in the social relationships.

我十分認可Sherry的观点，我们所有人都只是庞大网络中的一个点，社交网站于我们而言就像太阳与行星。虽然我们表面上相聚一堂，但实际上，人与人之间依然遥不可及。因此，在社交网站上，人们不但像以前一样孤独，并且人际关系可能会恶化。关于这个现象，有以下两个原因。

在网络的虚构世界里，这种虚拟的交流方式使人与人之间缺乏信任。躲在屏幕后面，人倾向于隐藏自己的真实情感，这使得人们可以只把自己希望别人看见的一面展示出来。

人们使用夸张的文字表达，发送礼貌的表情符号，并且有更多的时间思考一个更好的回复，在这样一个不太真实的世界里，缺少了眼神交流，面对面的亲密与信任。每个人正在慢慢适应这个伪装自己并接受他人欺骗的循环怪圈。这是一场信任危機。

除了客观因素，个人的因素也是一个重要的原因。

社交网站不但是一个简单的交流工具，而是一个“炫耀”的平台。大多数人会乐于展示自己最好的一面以及自己的成功。实际上，这种行为会使人与人之间产生隔阂。优越感，自卑感以及冷漠无感在每天的浏览中滋生，使得情感变得脆弱。

综上所述，在社交网络长期的使用中，人际关系可能在恶化。社交网站设计初衷是拉进人与人之间的地理距离，而不是增加人心与人心之间的距离。讽刺的是，如今这些工具变成了情感恶化的加速器。

（作者单位：重庆师范大学）