你的友谊是否失衡

文/Daniel Hoffman 译/大黄de 绘/ 修介

你的友谊是否失衡

文/Daniel Hoffman 译/大黄de 绘/ 修介

Do You GivE Too MucH iN FRiENDSHiP

友谊应该是双向的，但有时其中一方只有付出。下面的问题会帮助你正视自己的友谊。（记得每个问题都给自己和朋友打分。）

How often do you

1.Invite her over for a sleepover，an event，or just to hang out：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend： Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

约她去你家过夜、搞活动，或只是一起出去玩玩？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

友谊应该是双向的，但有时其中一方只有付出。下面的问题会帮助你正视自己的友谊。（记得每个问题都给自己和朋友打分。）

How often do you

1.Invite her over for a sleepover，an event，or just to hang out：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend： Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

约她去你家过夜、搞活动，或只是一起出去玩玩？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

2、Support her by attending her big event， like a volleyball game or dance competition：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

去给她打气，只要她有重要活动，比如排球赛或舞蹈比赛？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

3.Stand for her when people aren't being nice.

1. never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

2、Support her by attending her big event， like a volleyball game or dance competition：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

去给她打气，只要她有重要活动，比如排球赛或舞蹈比赛？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

3.Stand for her when people aren't being nice.

1. never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

在别人对她不友好时挺她？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是4.Help her through a tough time by listening and offering reassurance：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

l do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

在她有难处的时候帮助她安慰她？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

在别人对她不友好时挺她？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是4.Help her through a tough time by listening and offering reassurance：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

l do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

在她有难处的时候帮助她安慰她？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

5.Give her a meaningful present，whether it's her birthday or just for fun：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

送她表心意的礼物，不论是她的生日或者只是图个开心？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

6.C o m p l i m e n t h e r n e w outfit，her intelligence，her haircut...anything：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

什么都夸她。新衣服啦，聪明啦，发型啦什么的？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

7.Keep your promises to her by not cancelling plans or bailing on her at the last minute：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

守信用。不会取消计划或者临时爽约？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

8.Guard her secrets as carefully as you guard your own.You're like a lockbox！

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

5.Give her a meaningful present，whether it's her birthday or just for fun：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

送她表心意的礼物，不论是她的生日或者只是图个开心？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

6.C o m p l i m e n t h e r n e w outfit，her intelligence，her haircut...anything：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

什么都夸她。新衣服啦，聪明啦，发型啦什么的？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

7.Keep your promises to her by not cancelling plans or bailing on her at the last minute：

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

守信用。不会取消计划或者临时爽约？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

8.Guard her secrets as carefully as you guard your own.You're like a lockbox！

1.never 2.sometimes

3.often 4.always

I do this for my friend：Score：

My friend does this for me：Score：

像保守自己的秘密一样保守她的秘密。像个加密保险箱？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

Add them up！算算总分吧！

Now subtract your friend's score from your score：（it could be a negative number！）

Total：

现在用你的得分减去朋友的得分（可能是负数哦！）：

总分：

Between+24 and+15 Points

Every friendship should be a two-way street，but this one is one way only-hers！ It's time to expect more from your friend. Have a heart-to-heart to let her know you're feeling neglected.

+24到+15之间

每份友谊都应该是双向的，不过你们的关系的确是单向的——偏向她的！你应该从她那儿得到更多才对。和她坦诚地谈谈，让她知道你觉得受到忽视。

Between+14 and+5 Points

You're letting your friend call most of the shots even though she might not deserve to. Tell her you need more—whether it's calls， encouragement or invites，whatever-so that you don't always end up disappointed.

+14到+5之间

你大多时候都在围着朋友转，即使她不一定值得你这么做。告诉她你有更多的需求，不管是电话、鼓励、邀请，随便什么都行，这样你才不会总是落得失望。

Between+4 and-4 Points

You have the two-way street thing down！ You are both caring

像保守自己的秘密一样保守她的秘密。像个加密保险箱？

1.从不 2.有时 3.经常 4.总是

Add them up！算算总分吧！

Now subtract your friend's score from your score：（it could be a negative number！）

Total：

现在用你的得分减去朋友的得分（可能是负数哦！）：

总分：

Between+24 and+15 Points

Every friendship should be a two-way street，but this one is one way only-hers！ It's time to expect more from your friend. Have a heart-to-heart to let her know you're feeling neglected.

+24到+15之间

每份友谊都应该是双向的，不过你们的关系的确是单向的——偏向她的！你应该从她那儿得到更多才对。和她坦诚地谈谈，让她知道你觉得受到忽视。

Between+14 and+5 Points

You're letting your friend call most of the shots even though she might not deserve to. Tell her you need more—whether it's calls， encouragement or invites，whatever-so that you don't always end up disappointed.

+14到+5之间

你大多时候都在围着朋友转，即使她不一定值得你这么做。告诉她你有更多的需求，不管是电话、鼓励、邀请，随便什么都行，这样你才不会总是落得失望。

Between+4 and-4 Points

You have the two-way street thing down！ You are both caring

and cared for in this friendship，which is exactly how it should be. A balanced friendship like this is truly special.so keep working hard on this relationship， and it'll be one you'll treasure forever.

+4到-4之间

你们的友谊是双向的哦！你们相互关心，这才是健康的友谊。像这样和谐的友谊难能可贵，那就努力维持吧，你会永远珍惜这份友情的。

Between-5 and-14 Points

Whether you mean to or not，you're letting your friend do more of the work in this friendship. Time to star t appreciating "her a bit more and making her feel treasured， too.

-5到-14之间

不管你是有意还是无意，你任凭朋友在友谊中付出更多。你得开始给她更多的关注了，让她也觉得有人珍惜自己。

Between-15and-24 Points

Wake up call girlfriend：Your friend is doing most of the giving here！Just because she doesn't complain doesn't mean she hasn't noticed！ If you want this friendship to last， tell her you're going to make it up to her一 and then follow through.You can fix this friendship！

-15到-24之间

该醒醒了，美女，大多时候都是你的朋友在付出！她没有抱怨并不代表她没有意识到！如果还想维持这份友谊，告诉她你要补偿她，只要持之以恒地去做，你会修复你们的友谊的！

and cared for in this friendship，which is exactly how it should be. A balanced friendship like this is truly special.so keep working hard on this relationship， and it'll be one you'll treasure forever.

+4到-4之间

你们的友谊是双向的哦！你们相互关心，这才是健康的友谊。像这样和谐的友谊难能可贵，那就努力维持吧，你会永远珍惜这份友情的。

Between-5 and-14 Points

Whether you mean to or not，you're letting your friend do more of the work in this friendship. Time to star t appreciating "her a bit more and making her feel treasured， too.

-5到-14之间

不管你是有意还是无意，你任凭朋友在友谊中付出更多。你得开始给她更多的关注了，让她也觉得有人珍惜自己。

Between-15and-24 Points

Wake up call girlfriend：Your friend is doing most of the giving here！Just because she doesn't complain doesn't mean she hasn't noticed！ If you want this friendship to last， tell her you're going to make it up to her一 and then follow through.You can fix this friendship！

-15到-24之间

该醒醒了，美女，大多时候都是你的朋友在付出！她没有抱怨并不代表她没有意识到！如果还想维持这份友谊，告诉她你要补偿她，只要持之以恒地去做，你会修复你们的友谊的！