Ways To Overcome Frustration

李潇

导读：每个人在成长过程中难免会因碰到挫折而感到沮丧，其实这并非完全是坏事，因为我们可以从中得到许多历练，要愈挫愈勇。那么，我们可以采取哪些措施来战胜沮丧的心情呢？

I have a huge experience with frustration. I experienced it in so many ways， at so many times in my life， that I feel like Im some kind of a specialist. If you wonder why I have this huge expertise， heres the answer： growth never happens without it. The more frustration you are able to solve and overcome， the more growth youre experiencing. Avoiding it， hiding from it， neither of these ways will make you a better human being.

What follows is a list of tools and methods I used to solve my own frustration.

1. Accept Reality

Yes， something bad happened. Dont spend your day imagining how beautiful life could be if it wasnt for that stupid mistake. This is it. It is frustrating， no doubt about it， but refusing this reality will not lower the frustration， however， will make it stronger and stronger. Accept reality.

2. Change Your Focus

Its so easy to get caught in an increase of anger when youre frustrated， and I know that first hand. Change your focus by taking part in small but demanding activities. Get involved. Do take the necessary steps to get over the frustrating situation， but do not ignore everything else around you.

3. Talk About it with a Friend

Find somebody you trust and talk about it. Let it out. Dont let it grow inside yourself until you lose the control. Most of the time， when you reach this point， its too late to make a meaningful change that will restore your reality. Let your worries and your nerve fly. After all， this is what friends are for， right？

4. Write a Diary About it

If you dont keep a diary， start now. Write down all your fears， all your feelings and describe them in great detail. Do it until you feel you cant do it no more. Youre going to feel better beyond your imagination. Writing has this side effect of lowering what you write about， making it more manageable. Just try it.

5. Compare it With a Worse Situation

Try to think of a related situation but with a much higher degree of damage. If youre in debt， imagine how it will be to be bankrupt. If youre having a relationship breakup， try to imagine how it would be to live on a desert is land for the rest of your life. Be grateful for what you experience， because it can be worse.

6. Stop Blaming Yourself

Maybe you did something really wrong， and now your situation is the result of that mistake. Dont blame yourself. Its all in the past. Youre in the present and you can do something about it. Blame will only put weight on that past and drag you down. Avoid it at all cost.

Vocabulary

expertise n. 專长

focus n. 焦点

debt n. 债务

bankrupt n. 破产

blame v. 责怪

（Can you think out another way to deal with frustration？ Or， how do you usually overcome it？）