暗恋一个人的时候，你都做过那些事

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暗恋一个人的时候，你都做过那些事

What DO You Do If You Have a Crush on Someone

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Tejasvita Apte：

I walk up to him and tell him straight on his face.

There isn't a single crush①crush 英 ［krʌʃ］ 美 ［krʌʃ］ n. 粉碎；迷恋；压榨；拥挤的人群 have a crush on sb 迷恋……eg.Today， I found some pictures of the boy I have a crush on online.of mine who didn't know I had a crush on him. I have always made sure he knows.

Most have thanked me. S ome reciprocated②reciprocated reciprocate的过去式 reciprocate 英 ［rɪ'sɪprəkeɪt］ 美 ［rɪ'sɪprəket］ vt. 报答；互换；互给vi. 往复运动；互换；酬答；互给the interest. Som e didn't.

T o leav e this world without expressing love is a pity. I have therefore always expressed love and will continue to do so.

Go express love. The world needs it.

Alison Cox：

Sometimes you 'crush' on someone because something they did or said resonated③resonated resonate的过去分词 resonate 英 ［'rez（ə）neɪt］ 美 ［'rɛzə'net］ vt. 共鸣；共振 vi. 共鸣；共振eg. Yesterday I read a book that really resonated with me.昨天我读了一本很能引起我共鸣的书。with a part of you.

Y ou form a connection with that person and suddenly you can't stop④can't stop 停不下来 eg. But we can't stop living. 然而，我们不能停止生活。thinking about them.

It's totally natural but you have to consider other factors before deciding to act on a crush.

If you're both single, then why not get to know that person better.

I wouldn't was t e t i me wondering and just ask that person if they'd like to get to know you better too over a coffee.

If you're crushing on someone when it's not appropriate to make a move, just enjoy the fluttery⑤fluttery adj. 焦急不安的feelings.

Eventually you may get to know some other aspects of that person that will diminish the crush.

Roshna Nazir：

Try all possible ways to garner⑥garner 英 ［'ɡɑːnə］ 美 ［'ɡɑrnɚ］ vt. 获得；储存；把……储入谷仓 n. 谷仓his attention without letting him know how I feel about him.

So basically, the whole idea is to portray myself as The Queen Bee to make sure he's impressed, so that he approaches me before I do.

If it's here on Quora, vote up⑦vote up 好评few intellectually stimulating answers on topics which I have no clue about, cross-check⑧my profile and display picture, and then post an attentionseeking com m ent on one of his answers to m ake sure he visits m y profile.

Vineet Singh：

During school days, Being a typical Introvert⑨introvert 英 ［'ɪntrəvɜːt］ 美 ［'ɪntrəvɝt］ n. 内向的人；内翻的东西vt. 使内向；使内倾；使内弯 vi. 成为内弯；成为性格内向的人, I never had the courage to speak to her.

A ll I used to do was convince myself that she has the same level of crush on me, you know like a total douche-bag⑩douche-bag 讨厌鬼；冲洗袋.

No matter how much she ignores, doesn't give a damn, stays aloof⑪aloof 英 ［ə'luːf］ 美 ［ə'luf］ adj. 冷淡的；远离的；冷漠的 adv. 远离地；避开地, I still kind of conclude that she might have a crush on me.

e.g.

When my crush starts talking to someone in front of me, I conclude that she is just trying to make me feel jealous.

When she sits with some other guy during a bus trip, i conclude that she is just shy to sit with me.

When she turns her head backward to talk to someone who is sitting behind me, I conclude that she really wanted to see me.

Like this, like that, I kept myself happy soon to realize the bitter sweet lie/truth.

Now, I just observe and hopes nothing.

I love the way her fringe of hair comes right in front of her face and

今天，我搜到了一些我一直深爱的那个男孩的照片。then she puts it back behind her ears.

When she tie her pony with a pin m eanwhile concentrating hard on her PC.

I guess crushes are like chocolate brownie with hot v anilla f udge. Something that needs to be savored till it last.

Tejasvita Apte

我会走向他，当面告白。

我喜欢过的人几乎都知道我的心意。（也包括在Quora上喜欢过的人！）我总是让对方知道我的想法。

他们中的大多数都对我的爱意表示感谢。有的表示也喜欢我。有的不喜欢我。

没能表达出内心的爱就离开这个世界实在是一件憾事。所以我一直都在表达爱，也会一直如此。

大胆地表达出爱意吧。这个世界需要爱。

Alison Cox：

有时候，一个人的言行举止引起了你的共鸣，你会因此对他产生一种迷恋。

你和他之间形成了一种联系，而突然间你开始情不自禁地幻想这一切。

尽管表达爱意合乎常情，但是在决定采取行动之前也要考虑一下其他因素。

要是你们二人都是单身，那么何不多多地了解对方。

我才不会浪费时间自己瞎想，而是直接问他是否愿意一起喝杯咖啡，多了解我一下。

要是你喜欢上的人不适合追求，就慢慢享受这种焦躁不安的小情绪吧。

反正最后总是要了解到这个人的其他方面的，喜欢也会随之淡薄了。

Roshna Nazir：

我会使出浑身解数，吸引他的注意力，但是不会让对方知道我的小心思。

所以基本上，这个方法就是扮演蜂后的角色，确定他动了心，这样他就会在我采取行动之前先追求我。

如果我喜欢上了Quora用户，我会先在话题中找到几条高智商答案，默默点赞，虽然我完全不知道这些讲的都是什么，再核对一下我的个人资料，头像图片，之后在他的一个回答下写上一条足以引人注意的评论，确保他会访问我的主页。

Vineet Singh：

上学的时候，我很内向，几乎从不敢跟她讲话。

我过去经常告诉自己，她也一样喜欢我。你们知道的，我就像个傻蛋一样。

不管她多么不理睬我，对我多么不屑一顾，我仍然认为她可能喜欢我。

例如：

每当她在我面前和别人讲话，我都认为是她故意让我嫉妒。

每当公车旅行她和别的男生坐在一起，我都认为是她不好意思坐在我旁边。

每当她转过头和我身后的人讲话，我都认为她其实只是想看我一眼。

点点滴滴，我乐此不疲，但不久就了解到了这苦涩甜蜜的谎言和事实。

现在，我只默默凝视着她，不会再心存幻想了。

我喜欢她额前的一绺头发突然垂下来挡住了脸颊，然后她把头发轻轻别到耳后。

喜欢看她一边用头针扎起马尾一边还目不转睛地盯着电脑的样子。

我猜，暗恋就像沾着热香草软糖的巧克力布朗尼，不到最后一刻，香浓不减。