徐琴
Ifyouarefeelingthatlifejustcannotbeanyworseforyou,itcanbechallengingtothinkpositivethoughts.Whenwearestressed,depressed,upset,orotherwiseinanegativestateofmindbecauseweperceivethat“badthings”keephappeningtous,itisimportanttoshiftthosenegativethoughtstosomethingpositive.Ifwedont,wewillonlyattractmore“badthings”.
Itisoftenveryhardtothinkpositivewhensomanythingsarenegative,butIcanassureyouthatsomeone,somewhereisworseoffthanyou.Wecanchoosetothinkdifferentlybybeginningwiththesmallestofsteps.
Ifyoustartwithonesmall,positivethingandrepeatitduringthecourseofyourday,youwillbegintomoveintoamorepositivesituation:positivethoughts,feelings,opportunitiesandpeoplewillstartshowingupinyourlife.Withpractice,youwillfindthatovertime,youwillchangeyouroutlookandchoosetobehappy,irregardlessoftheeventsaroundyou.
Hereareafewexamplesforyoutopractice.Saythemoutloudandwithfeeling!
1.Beginandendeachdaywitha“Thankyouforthiswonderful,gloriousday!”
2.Whenyouseethegaspriceshiking,say“IamsogladthatIamblessedtohaveavehicleinwhichtogetaround.”
3.Whenyouarelateforwork,say“IamsohappyandgratefulformyjobasIknowthatmanydonthaveone.”
4.Ifyouarehavinghealthproblems,begratefulforwhatdoeswork:“Ireallydoappreciatemyeyesthatsee,myearsthathear,mymouththattastes,mylegsthatwalk,myarmsthatlift,myhandsthatwrite,mymindthatthinks,mykneesthatbendandmytonguethattalks.”Thepossibilitieshereareendless:insertwhatdoesworkforyouandfeelgoodaboutit!
5.Writedownwhatyouregratefulforeachday.Inmomentswhenyourefeelingreallydown,readwhatyouwrotepreviously.Thiswillhelpupliftyourspirits.Ifyoupracticethisregularly,youwillfindthatyourlistwillgetlongerandlonger.
Thekeyistomoveyourselfintoapositivethoughtandkeepittherelongenoughtomakeitamomentofblissfulpeace.Themoreyoupractice,thehappieryoullbe.
如果你感觉生活对你来说实在是糟糕之极,你可以挑战着想些积极的东西。当我们不堪重负、沮丧、失落,抑或因为我们认为倒霉的事总是光临我们而处于消极状态时,将这些消极的想法转变为积极的是至关重要的。如果我们不这么做,只会招致更多的霉运。
有如此之多的消极因素还要想些积极的东西,通常情况下这很难,但我可以保证,在某个地方有人比你情况还糟。我们可以换种方式,一步一步地细细思考。
从一件积极的小事情开始,并且一整天就一直重复想着,你将进入一个更加积极的状态:积极的思想、情感、机遇,人们开始装扮你的人生。这样练下去,很快你会发现你将改变你的观点,选择快乐的生活,而不在意周围那些琐事。
下面有一些方法供你练习。要有感情的把它们大声说出来。
1.在每一天开始和结束的时候,说一句“感谢这么愉快的一天!”。
2.燃气价格高涨的时候,说“我很高兴我至少还有着这辆车可以到处兜风。”
3.上班迟到时,说“我很幸福并感激我的工作,因为我知道很多人还没有工作。”
4.如果你的健康出了问题,对目前所拥有的要心存感激:“我真的感激我的眼睛还能看,我的耳朵还能听,我的嘴还能品味,我的双腿还能行走,我的双臂还能抬起,我的双手还能写字,我还能思考,我的双膝还能弯曲,我还能说话。”这儿有无穷尽的种种可能:珍惜你所拥有的,并善待它们!
5.记下每天让你感激的事。每当你失落的时候,读一读你曾经写下的心情,这会让你重新振作起来。经常这样练习去,你会发现你所感激的东西越来越多。
转为积极情绪并长久保持着这种状态的关键在于为自己创造幸福、宁静的一刻。练得越多,你就越幸福。
(徐 琴 供稿)