Ways to Get Over Shyness克服羞怯心理的方法

Shyness isn’t a problem. It’s OK to take time to warm up to new people andplaces. But shyness stops some people from being as comfortable2 as they’d like tobe. Some people want to feel less shy， so they can have more fun socializing3 andbeing themselves around others. Here are some tips for shaking shyness：

羞怯不是什么问题。花时间去熟悉陌生的人和地方是完全可以的。但是羞怯让有些人无法像他们希望的那样自在。有的人希望自己能不那么羞怯，这样他们就可以在社交中享受更多的乐趣，还能在别人面前做自己。以下是几个克服羞怯心理的小技巧：

1. Start small with people you know

从你认识的人开始做起

Practicedoingthingslikeeyecontact4，confident5 body language， self-introductions，small talk， asking questions andinvitations6 with the people you feel themost comfortable around. Smile. Makeyourself confident this way. Then try todo this with new friends， too.

和你觉得相处最自在的人练习做一些事情，比如眼神交流、自信的肢体语言、自我介绍、闲聊、提问和邀请。保持微笑，并用这种方式让自己变得自信，然后试着和新朋友也这样做。

2. Think of some conversation starters

想几个开场白

Often， the hardest part of talking tosomeone new is getting started. Thinkof conversation starters， like introducingyourself， giving a compliment7， orasking a question. Being ready with aconversation starter （or a few） makes iteasier to get close to someone.

通常和新朋友交谈最困难的部分是开场。想想开启对话的开场白，比如介绍你自己、给予称赞，或者问一个问题。准备好一个（或几个）开场白会让你更容易接近他人。

3. Rehearse8 what to say

排练一下要说的话

When you’re ready to try something you never do because of shyness—like aphone call or a conversation—write down what you want to say early. Rehearse itout loud， maybe even in front of the mirror. Then just do it. Don’t worry if it’s notlike you practiced or if it’s not perfect9. Few of the things more confident peopledo are perfect either. Be proud10 that you gave it a try. Next time， it’ll be evenbetter because it will be easier.

当你准备尝试做一些因为羞怯而没做过的事情时———比如打电话或交谈———可以提前写下你想说的话。大声排练，甚至可以在镜子前排练。然后就去做吧，不要担心它是否像你练习的那样，也不要管它是否完美。那些更自信的人做的事情也很少是完美的。你要为尝试过而感到自豪。下次会更好，因为做起来会更容易。

Most of all， be yourself. It’s OK to try out different words and sentencesothers using. But say and do in your own way. Being the real you and confident iswhat makes people want to be your friends.

最重要的是，做你自己。尝试用与其他人所用的不同词汇与句子也是可以的。但是要用你自己的方式来说和做。做真实的自己并保持自信是人们想成为你朋友的原因。

（英语原文选自：kidshealth.org）

Notes

1. shyness 羞怯，害羞

2. comfortable 自信的，自在的

3. socialize 交往，交际

4. contact 接触，触摸

5. confident （性格，态度）自信的，充满信心的

6. invitation 邀请

7. compliment 赞扬，称赞；问候，祝贺

8. rehearse 排练，排演

9. perfect 完全正确的，极其准确的；完美的

10. proud 自豪的，得意的